Taking Control
With autumn in full force, everywhere we look stores and shops are sporting their holiday decorations. While on the surface this may seem like a festive time of year, the holiday season can elicit feelings of sadness, loneliness, stress and worry. While certain situational and environmental factors may have contributed to you approaching the holidays alone this year, you do have control over what you make of the experience. Listed below are some practical tips on how to survive the holidays.
Prepare- emotions can ambush you and attack at any time; always have an exit strategy.
Accept- this is going to be a difficult time of year. Remind yourself that it’s a season and it will pass.
Be social- Don’t hibernate! Insecure feelings may tempt you to stay inside, but force yourself to go out even if it’s only for a short time- remember, you have an exit strategy.
Manage your expectations- Movies and songs (and people) often create an unrealistic picture of the holidays and how things should be.
Don’t go numb- the temptation to numb any emotional distress with drugs or alcohol can be great but will only create more depression.
Out with the old- if old ornaments or decorations cause too much pain, keep them in the attic. You can always come back to purge any items at a later time.
Stay active- take care of your physical well-being. Exercise produces natural stress reducers and you’ll feel good about yourself in the process.
Shop wisely- it takes a brave soul to go to the mall during the holidays. Do your holiday shopping online if going to the mall is too stressful.
Know your limits- Keep the phone number of your counselor, pastor, church, close friend on speed dial and call them if negative thoughts get fierce.
Get some rays- winter can take its toll on your emotions because we aren’t getting as much good ‘ole sunshine. Sit outside while having your morning coffee or take a short walk during your lunch hour- fresh air is our friend!
Stay connected- invite a new (same-sex) friend to see a movie, have dinner or help decorate the house.
Have good boundaries- don’t be hesitant to explain to your family and friends what you are willing to do this year, and what you aren’t. Don’t let others guilt you into taking on more than you’d like.
